On Facebook, it pains me to see women refer to their significant other as “he” or “him.” As in “I miss him” or “Can’t stop thinking about him…” added by “he knows who he is…”
Really? Does he know who he is? Does he know the two of you are in a relationship? And if so, is he acknowledging this relationship to an audience wider than you and him? In an environment other than your boudoir?
When your boo, boyfriend, or significant other is just “him” in the shared space of social media, he doesn’t want you. Think of Facebook like the lobby of the movie theater; if he won’t hold your hand in the lobby but will in the darkness of the theater only, he’s not in a real relationship with you.
Is that harsh? Well, it’s true. And you may not be able to handle my truth. But guess what? It is what it is.
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When He’s Just “Him”
On Facebook, it pains me to see women refer to their significant other as “he” or “him.” As in “I miss him” or “Can’t stop thinking about him…” added by “he knows who he is…”
Really? Does he know who he is? Does he know the two of you are in a relationship? And if so, is he acknowledging this relationship to an audience wider than you and him? In an environment other than your boudoir?
When your boo, boyfriend, or significant other is just “him” in the shared space of social media, he doesn’t want you. Think of Facebook like the lobby of the movie theater; if he won’t hold your hand in the lobby but will in the darkness of the theater only, he’s not in a real relationship with you.
Is that harsh? Well, it’s true. And you may not be able to handle my truth. But guess what? It is what it is.
June 13, 2009 - Posted by sevierkendricks | Essays and Cultural Commentary | dating on facebook, facebook, facebook boyfriend, hooking up on facebook, relationships, secret lovers, sevier kendricks, social media relationships | No Comments Yet